Oakridge Counselling London Ontario
you CAN feel like this again
How do you feel about yourself?
Do you wish you felt better, different somehow?
That you didn't care what others think;
or that you didn't need everyone to like you?
Are you worried about your couple relationship?
If so, I am here to help 🙂
I am Elizabeth Lacey MSW RSW.
Counselling for Women is my Passion.
I'm a Registered Social Worker, Psychotherapist,
Supervisor and the Owner of Oakridge Counselling in London Ontario
I do Individual Counselling for Women and Supervision & Consultation.
With in-person, phone, outdoor and online sessions in London Ontario.
And Online Counselling and Supervision throughout Ontario.
(See counselling costs here)
Estimated reading time: 10 minutes
About the Questions above
If you answered yes to any of the questions
It is okay to feel how you feel about it, even though it probably doesn't feel okay.
This is one of the first things I help women with. When answering the questions above, I honour your feelings as real and uncomfortable AND I help you make space for the rest of the story. For your other ways of knowing.
Other ways of knowing
Most of the women I work with in counselling are tuned into their feelings. In fact, it's often the strongest and most trusted form of information they have about their experiences. And they can forget, or not know, that they have other ways of knowing.
So we start there, right where you are, with the feelings you have about the above questions. And like I would in a counselling session, I validate your feelings as normal, and any discomfort about your answers to the questions as normal.
In a session I would remind you of your other ways of knowing. I might ask something like, "what else can you tell me?" Of course the other ways of knowing include feelings too. We include the feelings with the other information while not letting them take over as if they were the whole story.
Example from Counselling
It might sound something like this, "I really worry about what others think of me" (observation) "and I can't stop thinking about how I acted, or what I said afterwards" (observation). "I know I shouldn't care so much about what they think, (observation) but I do" (feeling).
The idea of feelings over shadowing other information is a bit tricky and can feel like I'm suggesting a woman is doing something wrong by being aware of and expressing her feelings. This is not what I'm suggesting at all. I am saying that feelings are only one part of your experience. A strong part yes. The one you are most of aware of and the one that gets the most weight in decision making - probably.
While valid and a big part of what makes you - you, your feelings are only one part of the wonderful story of who you are. I would love to meet you and explore the rest of your story. Together we'll find out how some of your quieter parts can help you manage the uncomfortable feelings you sometimes have. You really can:
- feel better about yourself
- worry less about what others think
- be less focused on whether people like you or not
- AND feel good about your couple relationship
Yes, I can help you feel better. Remember you don't always feel these uncomfortable things. Together we'll find ways to balance these feeling better for you.
Ready to get Started?
Sign up for a Free 15 minute Consult Call with me and find out how to we'll work together to do this.
Read More about Identity-Sense of Self
Are you worried about your couple relationship?
The couple relationship is one of the relationships that affect woman's emotional health the most. You share almost every aspect of your life with your partner; your home, family, children, parenting, your friends, finances, your body and your heart.
There are bound to be disappointments, arguments and hurt feelings when another person can affect so many important parts of you. Remember you are that person to your partner too. If you're having a hard time connecting with your partner, please try to remember this point. Then make an attempt to connect doing what you wish your partner would do to reconnect with you. Please reread this request and and at least try it. It's not the be all and end all, but it is something you can do today to try to make things better between and within yourself. Connection is so important to women.
Do you feel stuck?
Like you can't stop being "a people pleaser" and you can't keep doing it either? It's a lot of pressure, you're emotionally exhausted and you feel like you're letting everybody down.
Let's work together to get you "unstuck" and feeling good about yourself, your relationships and your life again. Counselling really does help women feel better.
Counselling helps Women Feel Better
You're not alone. Your feelings are valid but you don't have to keep feeling like this. Counselling helps women that feel like you do. I know it seems like everyone else has it all figured out and you might feel embarrassed when you don't - but they don't have it all figured out all the time either. They are putting on a brave face, just like you are.
I know this because I have sat with hundreds of women in counselling that feel just like you do. We all want to look like we've got it all figured out. You don't have to deal with this in silent isolation any more.
I hope you will consider counselling, so a caring professional like me 🙂 can support you and help you feel better about your situation and your self.
It's normal to be nervous about starting counselling
Starting counselling is a vulnerable thing to do, especially if you're a private person. I understand how hard it is to get started. You've already done the hard work of searching through therapists online and landed here. I've made the next step easier for you.
Would a Free 15 min. Consult Call Help?
Yes, that's right, you can book a Free 15 minute consult call with me. You can take the call in the comfort of your own space. And you can book it online at any time day or night.
I made it brief and free so it's easier to get started. It's long enough to get a sense of how it feels to tell me about yourself and what you need. If we don't have an "easy fit" it's okay, it happens sometimes, at least you found out without leaving your space or spending any money. If this happens, I will help you find another therapist that does free consult calls too so you can try again.
(see costs for counselling london ontario here).
You don't have to make any decision on the call
You don't have to make any decisions during our call. In fact, I will encourage you to take some time after to think about it and get back to me if you have questions or to explore next steps.
If you want to get started, you can book online or email me for an appointment. You really don't have to do this alone. I will be with you every step of the way. And if you choose someone else, I will still be happy for you because you got started and I helped you with that 🙂 Yes Really!
What do you say? Ready?
If so, click the pink box below and book your call. You will go to our secure online booking site where you create a basic account, see my availability and book your call. Then, I will send you a welcome email, confirm your preferred number and call you at the time you chose. And there you go - you've got this!
If you're not ready yet, that's okay too. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you. I am happy to answer any questions you have by email.
How Does Counselling Help?
- When your experiences are validated, instead of being called "too emotional, needy or an overreaction" you feel respected
- when you don't have to "take care of everyones feelings" you benefit from being taken care of emotionally
- you don't have to worry about being judged or hurting anyone's feelings.
- Many women answer their own questions when given the opportunity to process them within a supportive conversation with someone that wants to hear it and actually gets it
- With this type of support most women start to feel better and therefore find counselling helpful
Yes, you can feel better too - really. Remember you don't always feel these uncomfortable things.
Thank you for spending your valuable time here at Oakridge Counselling London Ontario. I hope you found what you were looking for. If not, please let me know and I will do my best to help you find it. Use the button below to contact me by email. I will respond personally within 1-3 business days.
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